To help celebrate Mother's Day, we thought there is no better way then spend some time with one of our favourite Social Media Mums.
So, earlier this week i had the pleasure of interviewing the gorgeous Amelia (@themidwifemumma) and finding out her thoughts on everything breastfeeding, motherhood and the perfect way to celebrate that one special day... Mother's Day!
At what point did you realise you were ready to be a mum?
Forever. HA!!! My partner and I have been together for over 10 years and I knew that he would be the one I would be with forever and have my children with so from day one I was ready BUT it was sensible to wait, Ambrose is 7 years older then me so we were both ready but I wanted to complete my Midwifery Degree first which is exactly what I did... Some days I wish we started our family earlier, but everything happens for a reason and timing is of the essence..We are so blessed to already have 2 healthy babies!
How has motherhood changed you?
It has definitely taught me to be MUCH more patient then i ever was before.. My god... those damn shoes take forever to do up on such teeny tiny feet... Also lets not get started on the much anticipated wait to finally meet your baby... that is patience at its best!! It is also amazing how you automatically hand yourself over in order to raise your kids..Like you literally say goodbye to the old you and take a backseat to prioritise everyone else first.. The old you is actually someone of the past now which sounds so bitter sweet but that is reality... In saying that, I absolutely wouldn't change a thing.. perhaps just my waistline from too many tim tams whilst feeding around the clock ha!
What is the most rewarding part about being a mum?
Oh lordy.. this is a hard question... Everything? Perhaps the fact that you created those teeny tiny feet that pitter patter up and down the hall way giggling for daddy to "chase" them? Or the fact that our healthy little blessings were created by the 2 of us (it all started with 1 cell.. say whhhaattt??) Obviously seeing your children so happy, healthy and full of life is the ultimate reward for being a parent... nothing can obviously compare to the morning cuddles, their smile when you walk into the room and their kisses goodnight.. see i can't pick.. everything is amazing
What is your biggest fear as a mum?
What don't we fear really.. Ohhh gosh.. illness and poor health.. oh and seeing your children sad. All we as parents wish for is good health, happiness and fortune (not the money kind).. Every mum worries about every small thing and it can be so stressful.. You are constantly worrying about their safety and whereabouts but I guess that is just instinctive. And you know what? Those super mums (and dads) that are currently nursing their unwell babies i send you healing vibes and a BIG hug.. you are amazing and your babies are VERY lucky to have you.
And it is so easy to lose your marbles and then feel SO guilty for it
How did you feel about breastfeeding in public for the first time? and do you have any advice for new breastfeeding mums?
I will be honest and say it never bothered me.. (that doesn't come from a place of vanity either) I just genuinely didn't care because at the time, all you care about is feeding your crying baby... I will say though, I can absolutely understand how many mothers have anxiety about feeding in public.. Its not even about having your breasts exposed the big wide world (or 30 people in the food court), its more the fact that it is so hard to get comfortable in a hard chair that is not supportive all the while juggling your baby in one arm while trying to shield your booby with the other.. The first time i fed alfie in public was out for breakfast at our local cafe (i was discreet of course).. Anyhow, story of my life, alfie had a choking attack from my fast flow, pulled off mid stream with milk spraying all over my pants whole trying to catch his breath was not fun!! Best advice is to STAY CALM!!! my gosh as if we don't have enough pressure... Your baby comes first, nobody else... SO settle your baby first, make yourself as comfy as possible then attach baby when calm. There is nothing worse then trying to shove a baby on the boob with no peeping toms while he/she is having a meltdown.. Also - the more relaxed you are about it, the easier the feed will be... I also have a cup of tea (whilst being mindful not to spill it on the babe). it takes your mind off it and eases the pressure of the public (good distraction technique).. at the end of the day we always worry more about what other people are thinking & we shouldn't.. It's simple.. if you need to feed then and there then so be it Tom, beccy, john, jenny and peter!
When do you question yourself as a mum?
Every 5 minutes!! When I loose my cool (which isn't often)... Sometimes when we are SO exhausted (which lets be honest is a lot of the time) and it is so easy to lose your marbles and then feel SO guilty for it.. I think this is also when we also do most of our comparative work.. We see SO much on social media that makes us question everything... "i bet susan doesn't ever yell at her kids".. "Clearly Lauren sleeps all night, look how good she looks today".. We have all been there and done that... There is much more then meets the eye!! if your kids are happy and well fed then YOU mumma are doing a fab job!
What’s the best advise your mum ever gave you?
It's not the end of the world & it doesn't last forever... of course she was/is right.. the lack of sleep, the tantrums, the pregnancy, the labour, the birth, the hard days, the food fights, the tummy bugs, colds, ripped clothes, stained clothes, hard days, long nights.. all of it!!! It really doesn't last forever (the last month of pregnancy is debatable).. and it is not the end of the world... as a mum you don't have time to dwell on anything so best to just embrace it (even the mastitis and snot) as it does not last forever.
What do you admire most about your mum?
That she is always right.. like she really is.. She is so relaxed about everything.. She has had 5 kids and seems to have done it with ease if that's even a thing.. she never whinges either.. I could really take a leaf out of her book.
What does Mother’s Day mean to you?
I think everyday is and should be mothers day.. our work is tireless and selfless...Although secretly our babies and partners appreciate us EVERY day of the week (right??) it is a time to give us that 5 minute sleep in (that we secretly lie awake for anyway) and get a nice bunch of flowers to show us that they do care.. For my mum.. she is the most generous person ever so to be able to i guess 'spoil' her is so nice.. Mother's day is really a great chance to all get together, eat delicious food and be happy!! A time to celebrate us ALL day when we need it most.
How will you be celebrating Mother’s Day this weekend?
A big brekkie at the mother in laws then a catered lunch at my sisters.. We both come from HUGE families so the celebrations (and cake) lasts all weekend!! I won't complain
Happy Mother's Day to each an every wonderful Mum, may your days be filled with rest, laughter and memories to cherish.